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At first she tried spanking me ... which was moderately erotic, but didn't give me a big buzz .. then she suggested that I try spanking her. Immediately I discovered a very different result. First of all I discovered how much I like being on the giving, not the receiving end; what's more, it was clear that she really needed it. We started with the spanking side, but rapidly moved up the scale to more severe treatment. I was starting to find myself much more happy in the dominant rôle and she got more and more into the submissive/masochist side. Since her I have met many people who enjoy the milder side of spanking (not that it's as mild as you might think because a good spanking should really sting) and discovered that a large proportion never need or want to experience the Masochist heavy-punishment type of treatment whilst conversely, a perhaps surprising number do.
Though I spank less often nowadays, I still meet some former spanking partners from time to time and have to say that as a relaxation it's often hard to beat. I find it's erotic, particularly if it stimulates my partner, and I've had some of the most satisfying mild-discipline/erotic sessions in and around spanking activities.
I use a range of implements, varying from my hands (of course), up to and including paddles, a tawse, a rattan cane (though that's really caning of course), hairbrushes and other implements. At this level, it's important that my partner is enjoying herself too, so most of the time I will take time to check with her that it's working well for her too. Punishment beatings really come under a different heading, so for the moment, this page is more dedicated to the mild end of discipline and the pleasure that comes from moderate spanking.
Every situation is different naturally enough, but I've encountered more confusion with new spanking partners than most other forms of out-of-the-mainstream activity. When I've initiated it then I can maintain control; if my partner has never been spanked before but has been intrigued by discussions of it then the initial stages are easy to manage and the same goes for mild chastisement or punishment spankings. If the partner has been spanked before and is aroused enough by it to want to do it again, beware! You need to set the stage with care if you want to avoid misunderstandings.
People come to spanking for a great variety of reasons. If you are lucky they will know which ones work for them but many more aren't sure themselves and you need experience, confidence and psychological insight to get the best out of it. And it doesn't help when you discover that there's usually a little of most of the reasons all mixed in together. With women in particular it has been my experience that the motivations can change daily or even minute by minute during a session. To avoid misunderstanding you really do need to negotiate in advance how far things should be taken and what kind of situation is expected.
Here are some of the motivations I've discovered and my notes on each of them. I must emphasise that these are not exclusive and you are most likely to encounter a mix of all of them in each person you meet who finds spanking is a turn-on.
Be very careful with an experienced spanker. By no means all of them want or need any sexual content to the experience. You must discuss that in advance as well as safe words or signs that they need you to lighten up or stop. It's better to underdo the scene with someone you don't know well than to take it too far and freak them out. For those who do want to follow spanking with sexual activity you can expect a very enjoyable experience indeed, arousal plus endorphins (nature's painkillers) beats most recreational drugs like four aces against a pair.
LinksSee the sidebar for links to spanking videos I have collected .. very modest I know. If you have others that you would like to share, let me know and I'll add them to the site. The following link list will be extended over time - so please make suggestions for those as well. Of course you can also browse through my collection of spanking and caning images if you would like to admire other people's work.