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The CockToy - an Introduction
This site explores a range and variety of interests that have been my focus at one time or another. Amongst all of them is the enjoyment of women who find themselves drawn either to sex, submission or for the most part, both. Whether it's the masochist, the slut, the bimbo or the whore, at various times my concentration has been directed towards her and I've slaked my thirst and then looked further to see what other pleasures await me. In its time each has given me satisfaction and I have learned what I can, savouring the moment rather than restlessly moving on to the next thrill. None of them separately has given me as much pleasure, or provided the complexity and fascination, the hidden delights and superficial satisfaction combined as the presence and continued education of an accomplished cocktoy.
To me the cocktoy represents the pinnacle of pleasure and service. It's a taste that grows as one matures. The simple desires of youth (let's get as drunk as we can, eat a curry no other man dare try) transform themseleves into a searh for richness and subtlety as the years lay their hand on you and you grow to prefer quality over more superficial and obvious attractions. That is what I find in the cocktoy. Any girl can spread her legs like a barroom whore and show what a slut she is, you can dress her to your taste, or tie her up and whip her, or humiliate her in public: all of these are are fun and pleasure for the dominant man ... and yet, without a spark of something more, a richer blend of the compelling, intoxicating and entrancing, you find yourself dissatisfied and wanting what I intend to describe in the pages dedicated to the true cocktoy.
So what is a cocktoy? Simple labels can be misleading and are likely to be interpreted differently by each person who hears them. Let me start then by listing some of the more obvious features of what I mean when I talk about a cocktoy, followed by some of the things that she either must not or need not be. Incidentally, in heterosexual terms the cocktoy is by definition female; the male counterpart for dominant women is the toycock. Probably 80% of what is written here about cocktoys applies similarly to toycocks but there are differences. Maybe one day there will also be a similar description and training manual here for toycocks.
A cocktoy is a woman who dedicates herself to learning the arts of providing sexual pleasure to her owner. I should point out that there are numerous examples in history of women who have done that and who show no obvious signs of submissiveness; those may have been courtesans, diplomats, escorts, spies or any one of a number of other things but the cocktoy as described in these pages also enjoys her submission and expresses it through the will to learn the skills of pleasing. The cocktoy:
Make no mistake. Becoming a good cocktoy is just as difficult as reaching high levels of skill in any other field. This does not happen by accident; it takes an act of will backed with concentration, focus, dedication and a lifetime of learning coupled with coaching and natural talent if it's going to be done well. Cocktoys don't spring into life fully-formed. Natural ability must be combined with proper training and coaching to bring out the best. This is not to decry the amateur cocktoy who has to fit her interest in with the myriad other demands of modern life; I take off my hat and salute any girl who understands that this is her vocation. Nonetheless on this and the related pages we will explore how a top professional cocktoy can be trained and coached and give a roadmap for anyone who wishes to embark on self-training too.
Being a cocktoy is a state of mind. It's simply not possible to learn all the skills that are required without understanding what they are and then one by one learning them and putting them into practice. Whilst she may not always be centre stage and being called upon to serve overtly, the cocktoy nonetheless knows all the time what her purpose is and she can't do it as an act. Every aspect of her day-to-day life is necessarily affected by her choice to learn and serve. When eating, walking, shopping, working: every moment of her waking hours and her dreams too are nuanced by her metier. Sometimes she is overtly a cocktoy, other times she may almost fade into the background but the fact remains. She is what she is and it's part of her fabric of life; it's not a garment worn or removed at will.
Lest there should be misunderstanding it may help to define the cocktoy by what she is not (at least not by requirement, her owner may ask her to slip into these rôles from time to time: The cocktoy is not necessarily:
It is worth repeating the last two points there. Skilled cocktoys need not (indeed it's hard to see how a very young cocktoy could have learned the arts) be slim teenage beauties with the dewy blush of youth still wet on their cheeks. Most only blossom after several years of intense study and practice. Having said that, from the owner's perspective it always easier to teach someone young; the two reasons for this being that younger minds learn more quickly and there is no previous conditioning or rules to un-learn. If the teacher is gifted then the challenge and hence the reward of successfully training a mature cocktoy may well be all the greater.
Subsequent pages here will look at specific aspects of what the cocktoy must learn in order to serve with style and distinction. In time it's hoped that a full cocktoy training manual will emerge from these pages. It will naturally reflect my own tastes and will need to be adapted to suit the needs of other cocktoy trainers looking for a suitable training scheme but I'm struck by the lack of such material to be found easily elsewhere.
Doug's cocktoy training curriculum
There are two parts to training a good cocktoy, one of which might seem out of place unless you have the experience that I have. The easy part is training the cocktoy. That simply takes time and attention to detail unless you have started out with a girl who has no talent. The hard part is the owner. So many supposedly dominant men presume that they spring full-fledged from some kind of supernatural foundry and that they already know everything. Sadly this is rarely the case. The number of clueless would-be cocktoy-owners I have met would drive me to drink if I wasn't partial to the stuff already. Fortunately not all owners are like that. You can find smart and realistic owners if you look hard enough. To pick just one example, Z and his fuckpuppet were a pleasure to meet: charming, good company and both aware of how to bring the best out of a natural fucktoy.
Many people who think that they are fit to own a cocktoy are simply living in fantasy land. What they really want is a bimbo slut but they haven't figured that out and spend their lives disappointed that they have never met one, only seeing their dream on the arms of others. Let's bring a small amount of reality into this. If you expect to be served by a smart, well-trained cocktoy who spends hours every day ensuring that her skills, fitness, presentation, conversational ability and sexual technique are on top form then you are going to have to provide her in return with time, guidance, emotional and financial support, affection and respect as well as regular sexual practice. An occasional fuck in a motel room will not cut the mustard.
The training curriculum must take into account the many skills needed for a cocktoy to complement and please her owner. They include specific skills and requirements such as
Reader's CommentsPeter wrote:
'J' wrote in with some pictures of his delicious bondage-puppet and cocktoy - she's only partly trained at present but I think anyone would agree that she is ideally suited to the task from these pictures:gallery of her photos if you wish.